I think I know why no man takes my friend on a 5th date but I’m never telling her. I just got back from a week in Bali with a close friend, and something I saw there made everything click in a way I can’t unsee. She’s smart, funny, kind, and honestly great to be around, yet every guy she dates disappears after a few meetings.
At first I didn’t get it. Then I met the cat. Not just a pet the center of everything. Every conversation, every moment, even our vacation revolved around it. FaceTimes, baby talk, constant updates. and I realized this pattern might be why dating never moves forward.
I think I know why no man takes my friend on a 5th date but I am NOT telling her
And now I’m back home, still replaying the trip in my head. I keep wondering if she really doesn’t see it, or if she just can’t imagine her life any other way. From her side, it’s love and loyalty.
From the outside, it quietly takes up every space a partner would normally share.
I’ve decided not to say anything. Some truths don’t fix things they only break them. So I’ll smile when she says, “he just wasn’t the one,” and she’ll go back to her cat, and the cycle will continue.
Maybe one day she’ll notice. Or maybe she already has.
